10 Etiquette Rules Nobody Follows Anymore


Not Celebrating Yourself

If no one else is volunteering, it's fine to throw your own birthday party. Just don't expect your guests to pay for it. Betsie Van Der Meer/Getty Images
If no one else is volunteering, it's fine to throw your own birthday party. Just don't expect your guests to pay for it. Betsie Van Der Meer/Getty Images

Sometimes, if you want something done right (or even done at all), you have to do it yourself. It's becoming extremely common for people to throw their own birthday, housewarming, engagement and other parties, sometimes because they just enjoy playing the host, but often because no one else offers to do it for them!

Although considered fairly tacky in the past, some etiquette experts can handle the trend of self-celebration, as long as it's done with style. For example, inviting guests to a birthday party where they have to provide or pay for food, drinks and the implied gift is placing the burden squarely on their shoulders, despite the fact that you planned the soiree. By contrast, hosting a party with all the trimmings on a date that just happens to be on or near your birthday relieves the attendees from responsibility [source: Miss Manners]. There's no sense in moping around, wishing for a fete you're physically and financially capable of throwing yourself, so do it up right and toast yourself quietly for bucking a pretty benign tradition!

Author's Note: 10 Etiquette Rules Nobody Follows Anymore

Modern etiquette is really all about opening your eyes and being cognizant of other people's needs and feelings. I doubt I make it through every day without committing some faux pas, but I try and that has to count for something!

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