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How to Update Old Traditions for New Families


Tips for Updating Old Traditions for New Families
Find some common ground among multiple generations.
Find some common ground among multiple generations.
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One suggestion for updating old traditions is to start slowly. Making a drastic change risks upsetting everyone who has come to love the old routine. You'll also have more success instituting a whole new tradition if you find a way to do it gradually [source: Coady].

The first step is to examine why an old tradition needs updating. Has an extended family simply grown too big for the annual Christmas gift exchange? Perhaps it's time to reduce the gift responsibilities with a "Secret Santa" system. Has grandma decided that she'd like to retire from cooking duties? Have everyone contribute with a potluck-style feast. Have new families grown so big that they'd like to celebrate holidays on their own? Consider moving the extended-family celebration to a day or two after the actual holiday. There are scores of reasons why traditions will need to be updated, and you'll need to adjust based on the needs of a changing family.

If your family is under financial stress, a common problem in a difficult economy, you'll want to find ways to scale back on extravagant traditions. Cutting back on gift-giving is the hardest, but usually most important way to reduce costs. Instead of simply cutting down on the number of presents and disappointing high expectations, many families institute a new rule that can make gift-giving more fun and interesting. For instance, if you have a creative family, ask that everyone exchange gifts that are handmade with materials that cost less than $20.

If new jobs or bigger families mean that everyone's time is more constrained than it has been in years past, there's no shame in taking a few shortcuts. Instead of letting yourselves get overwhelmed with stress, examine the things that take up an excessive amount of time and try to find alternatives. For instance, if you don't have time to spend all day in the kitchen, consider buying pre-made food for some of the side dishes.

So, although traditions are very important to families, there's also good reason to reevaluate them from time to time.


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